13 Mar 2014

2 Myths Teenagers Have About Adoption {part 2}

Submitted by Anonymous

There are MANY myths when it comes to teens and what they think adoption is. I admit, I too, believed many of these myths when I was a teenager. This is why I feel this post has such importance and why I will be breaking this post into several parts. Keep in mind I’m going to answer these myths from my personal experience and the knowledge that I have obtained being in the adoption industry for 13 years now. I want to bring awareness to the truth of what adoption is and put an end to these myths for good!

Myth #4 Adoptive parents can’t love an adopted child as much as they would a biological child.

This could not be further from the truth. Parents love their children whether they are adopted or biological. Many adoptive parents wait years to have a family. They go through great lengths to have children before they turn to adoption. The day they hold their baby in their arms, it doesn’t matter if they gave birth to that child, they fall in love. Good parenting is a matter of unconditional love, consistent nurturing, patience and putting the child’s needs first. As an expectant parent you have the opportunity to pick the adoptive family. Typically, your Agency will show you parent profiles, written or online, to help you in picking a family. In a semi- open or open placement you are able to see how much your child is loved firsthand.

Myth #5 If I place my baby for adoption, people will think that I’m not taking responsibility for my actions.

Making a responsible decision is educating yourself on your options and then making the best possible decision based on your circumstances. If you’re not sure that you are ready to parent, gathering information on your options and considering an adoption plan is a way of being responsible. At some point you have to let go of what others think about you, about your decision to  parent or place. Either way, the more confident you are about your decision the more convinced your critics will be. Educate yourself, then do the responsible thing and make the best decision for you and your baby. Only you can make that choice.

Fact #1 Adoption isn’t a fairy tale.

When I placed my little butterfly for adoption in 2000,  a part of me honestly believed that she would now go on to live a ‘fairy tale’ life and that she was living in a castle with her adoptive parents that would nurture, love and guide her. I thought she had a free pass to life’s trials. However, the fact is, none of us get a free pass. We are all here to learn, to fail, to succeed and to find ourselves. Some of the biggest lessons I have learned have come as a result of a trial or a mistake that I made. It is in our darkest hours that we learn who we truly are. Hearing about my little butterfly’s trials or what she may have to face one day doesn’t make me question my decision to place her for adoption. I still, no matter what, choose to believe I made the best possible decision at that time. Adoption is not a fairy tale… it is unconditional love, unselfish, courageous and a beautiful experience that I will forever hold dear to my heart.

Teenage pregnancy help-

If you are considering adoption, looking for a couple to adopt your baby, facing an unwanted pregnancy or just want to know more about adoption as a whole. Please, continue to follow us here www.birthmotherbaskets.org Email us at: gina.crotts@birthmotherbasket.org We can team you with one of our Expectant Parent Peers to help answer your questions. Educate yourself on what your options are, so you in return can make an educated decision that is best for you and your baby.

{Part 1 posted below}

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